Whether or not to file for divorce is not likely a decision made without considerable thought, and in many cases, it may be the last option. However, certain circumstances are intolerable -- some of which might even put you and your children in harm's way. The time may come when you want to take back control of your life.
Do you recognize any of the following scenarios?
Although some say there is always a chance of resolving marital issues, you may be right in thinking that it's the right time to end your marriage, especially if any of the following apply to your situation:
- Is your spouse an addict? If you are married to an addict of things such as alcohol, drugs, gambling or sex, you might experience financial or legal problems, and emotional abuse may form part of your daily life. Raising children in such a household can cause significant damage, and some kids may be under the false impression that they are the reasons of the problem.
- Does your spouse abuse you? When there is abuse in a marriage, leaving may be the best thing to do -- regardless of any promises never to do it again. Even if you are not in physical danger, emotional and verbal abuse can be exceptionally harmful. Allowing the situation to continue can be detrimental to your emotional and mental well-being and your self-esteem.
- Does your spouse not share your wish to start a family? This can be a tricky problem because you might have agreed not to have children before the marriage. Then, nature took over, and one of you may develop the desire to have a child. This issue is known to drive deep wedges between spouses over time. If there is no chance that the other spouse will give in, it might be best to consider that having a child is an issue that is time-sensitive. Putting off a divorce might allow that clock to run out.
- Does your spouse have no remorse after cheating? Infidelity does not necessarily have to lead to divorce. The type of relationship formed, whether it was a once-only occurrence or an ongoing love affair, and other aspects will play a role. However, in most cases, the manner in which the straying spouse handles the aftermath is significant. Advisers say the cheating spouse must show remorse, take responsibility, relinquish the affair partner, give reassurance, act reliably and make an effort to repair the marriage.
None of the above might apply, but after the kids went off to college, you might have realized that you have grown apart and that the two of you have become like strangers with no subjects for conversation, which is not uncommon.
If you have exhausted all options, you may have concluded that ending your marriage is the proper route for you to take. Seeking the support and guidance of an experienced divorce attorney could be the best way to help you navigate the process. Your attorney can protect your interests throughout this challenging time and can significantly increase your odds of smoothly transitioning toward a brighter future.