Have you decided to end your marriage? For individuals approaching the end of a marriage, there are options in how to proceed. Some individuals choose separation, some may seek a litigated divorce in court, and others may choose to utilize mediation. How do you know which option is right for you? The best route will depend on your circumstances, and each has its pros and cons. Many people are choosing to use divorce mediation for its ability to reduce the length and cost of ending a marriage.
If your first marriage ended in divorce, you may have had high hopes that your second marriage would remain strong, maybe for the rest of your life. It seemed right at the start. Perhaps you made each other laugh, shared similar interests and just felt comfortable together. Your respective children got along well enough, and things seemed promising.
No person goes into a marriage thinking that they will someday be ending it, but for a certain percentage of people, this is the case. When two people decide to end a marriage, and they have children together, sometimes they learn to compromise so that they can support the children and allow them to thrive.
The old adage, "when it's over, it's over," could even be applicable to marriages that are decades old. With changing societal values, the United States is seeing a lot more "gray divorces," or marriages splitting up after many years -- often when the children have left the nest and a couple has simply grown apart.
As a parent, you certainly want to do what is best for your children as often as you can. If you have gone through divorce, you may sometimes feel as if taking care of your children goes outside your control due to the child custody arrangements created at the time your marriage ended. Though you likely would not want to interfere with the other parent's rights without cause when it comes to custody, certain factors may lead you to feel concerned.
If you're like many Texas parents, you may spend many weeks during spring and summer running back and forth to baseball games, soccer events and/or other special activities in which your children participate. In fact, some days, just getting away from work, through heavy traffic and to the field on time may prove as challenging (or so it may seem) as putting a man on the moon, but hey -- they're your kids and they're worth it, right?
As a parent, you probably want what is best for your child. Perhaps you and the other parent were unable to continue in a relationship. Although you might not want to fund the other parent's personal endeavors, supporting your kids financially could be a top priority. Unfortunately, certain life changes can create monetary issues that challenge a person's ability to maintain the current standard of living.
Dissolving a marriage in Texas technically requires filing a lawsuit. However, just because you have to file a lawsuit does not mean traditional litigation is necessary to work out the terms of your split. Many married couples today are relying on mediation to address their disputes instead.
Divorce is always a difficult process, but it can be particularly complex for couples when one or both spouses are in the military. Military service affects almost every area of life, and family law matters are no exception to this norm. For this reason, a military service member or spouse will find great benefit in seeking the counsel of an attorney experienced in military divorce before moving forward.